About No Touchie

Most people have had it happen. Someone stands too close. A relative grabs you for a hug you didn't offer. A coworker puts a hand on your shoulder while looking at your screen. A family gathering turns into a gauntlet of mandatory affection for your kid. You know the feeling. You also know how hard it is to say something about it without the whole room treating you like the problem.

This site is for those situations. Not as a place to vent, and not as a source of scripts and worksheets. Just clear thinking and direct writing about what actually happens, why it keeps happening, and what it looks like to handle it without either backing down or burning everything to the ground.

What gets covered

The writing here covers personal space in the situations where it most often gets ignored: workplaces, family gatherings, and the particular dynamics around children. The aunt who insists on a kiss. The coworker who doesn't read distance. The kid who doesn't understand why grabbing isn't okay, or the one who's been told they have to accept it from adults.

These aren't emergencies, usually. They're the ordinary friction of being around people who have different (or no) ideas about where one person ends and another begins.

About the author

Robin Archer has spent a career in environments where personal space was reliably misunderstood, and has been navigating family gatherings long enough to have opinions about them. Neither credential qualifies as expertise. The writing reflects experience, not professional training.

Nothing on this site should be taken as legal, psychological, or professional advice. For situations involving safety, consult someone who is actually qualified to help.